BEFORE THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY
The Priest will wish to see you on a number of occasions, these meetings should take place well in advance of your wedding the priest will discuss the following points:-
- why you want a Catholic Church wedding.
- what is special about a Christian marriage.
- the importance of prayer.
- to plan and discuss the format of the Nuptial Mass or Service.
Please note that the scripture readings must be from the Jerusalem Bible. Please view the website www.portsmouthcatholiccathedral.org.uk/docs/mar_read.pd
IF YOU WERE MARRIED BEFORE
You MUST speak with your Priest to establish if it is possible for you to celebrate your Wedding in the Catholic Church.
No arrangements can be made prior to this meeting with the Priest.
IF YOU LIVE OUTSIDE THE PARISH
If you want to marry in St Mary’s Church you will need written permission from your own Parish Priest. He will prepare with you the necessary “paper work” for the Wedding. However with his written permission one of St Mary’s priests can fill in the forms with you.
WHAT IF MY FIANCÉE IS NOT A CATHOLIC?
A non-Catholic who is either baptised or not baptised is very welcome to marry a baptised Catholic in the Catholic Church. They are also very welcome to invite their Vicar/Minister to assist the priest with the wedding ceremony. If you wish to marry your non-Catholic partner in their Church/Chapel you will require a Special dispensation, your priest will help you in this matter.
The church honours and treasures the married love between husband and wife. For Christians marriage mirrors the relationship between Christ and the Church. Thus married love was described by St. Paul as a “great mystery” (Ephesians 5.32) and came to be recognised as one of the sacraments.
Marriage like other vocations calls us to reflect God’s love to the world in a particular way. Married people in their exclusive and life long commitment to each other witness to and draw strength from how Christ has loved us.
The wedding vows that couples exchange express what is at the heart of Christian marriage. The words “for better or for worse” point to the truth that life together will have its challenges as well as its rewards. The grace of the sacrament inspires couples to turn to the Lord not just in days of happiness but also in times of sorrow to seek the strength to transform any situation with love and indeed forgiveness. It is important to state that while upholding the value of perseverance and the hope of reconciliation, the Church does not demand that anyone remain in a situation that has become impossible.
In the Catholic tradition, marriage requires a willingness on behalf of the couple to welcome the children with whom they may be blessed. At the same time, the church holds that married life is fruitful and life-giving of itself.
Marriage is a profound commitment. It is a commitment that each party must chose freely, giving their full consent without reservation. For this reason appropriate preparation is essential both at a personal level and in regard to establishing that all is in order for the marriage to proceed happily and joyfully.
In becoming husband and wife you give yourselves to each other for life. You promise to be true and faithful, to support and cherish each other until death, so that your years together will be the living out in love of the pledge you now make. May your love for each other reflect the enduring love of Christ for his Church.
Have you:- Registered the marriage at the Registry Office?
Made a booking for the marriage preparation course? Marriage Care’s central appointment service 08003893801 or email email@example.com.
Have you collected the Certificates or Licences from the registrar’s Office?
Have you obtained a current Baptismal Certificate and Letters of Freedom? from the parish where you were baptised
Given the documents to the Priest?
Contacted the Organist?
Contacted the Florist?
Made provision for payments?
Made provision for a rehearsal?
The Priests at St. Mary’s wish to offer you their very best wishes for your future marriage together.
We offer marriage preparation, relationship counselling and more
We specialise in helping couples – married or not – build and sustain strong, fulfilling, healthy relationships, and in providing support in times of relationship difficulty.
Why? Because better relationships make for better lives, more stable families and a stronger society.
Planning to marry? All engaged couples wishing to book a Marriage Preparation Course should do so by using Marriage Care’s central appointment service on 08003893801 or email firstname.lastname@example.org. This number can also be used to book Marriage Care Counselling Services..A little preparation through one of our marriage preparation days can make a big difference to the quality of your relationship.
For couples or individuals encountering relationship difficulties, we offer relationship counselling – face-to-face and by telephone.
Learn how to build a fulfilling couple relationship through our relationship education services.
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We’re ready to help, whatever your circumstances.
To book an appointment for relationship counselling or marriage preparation, please call 0800 389 3801 between Mon – Thurs (9am–6pm) or Fri (9am–5pm).
Please note we are closed on Wednesday between 12pm–2pm for staff training.